Love One Another: Action

How to Love One Another: Affirm, Share, and Serve

Most of us are familiar with the “one another” commands of the New Testament. In the study guide for  Gospel in Life: Grace Changes Everything, Tim Keller offers a helpful taxonomy under the categories of affirming one another, sharing with one another, and serving one another. These form, he says, “nine ‘community-building practices’—specific behaviors that build Christian community.”


  1. Affirm one another’s strengths, abilities, and gifts.
  1. Affirm one another’s equal importance in Christ.
  1. Affirm one another through visible affection.


  1. Share one another’s space, goods, and time.
  1. Share one another’s needs and problems.
  1. Share one another’s beliefs, thinking, and spirituality.


  1. Serve one another through accountability.
  1. Serve one another through forgiveness and reconciliation.
  1. Serve one another’s interests rather than our own.

This was one of the most popular videos in Wintering Well 2015, it ties in nicely.

Love One Another: In the world

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Excerpt from Three lessons on loving one another by Jonathan Parnell

Know the New Commandment

The instruction and example from Jesus now becomes a bona fide commandment — a new commandment (John 13:34).

34 tA new commandment uI give to you, vthat you love one another: wjust as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.

The meaning behind our serving one another is our love for one another. The church loves one another, even in ways deeper than flesh-and-blood family.

This has to be true for my family to make it. Years ago, in a move from one school to another, my wife and I relocated our growing family based on Jesus’s words in Mark 3:35: “Whoever does the will of God, he is my brother and sister and mother.” We left a loyal home-base that had loved us for years — not to mention an endless supply of free babysitting — to come to a community we didn’t really know. All we did know was that they followed Jesus, and if what Jesus says is true, we would be okay. More practical than anything else I’ve experienced, Jesus’s words have been true. We live where we do primarily because the family of Jesus is a group that loves one another.

And when this happens, Jesus says all people will know that we’re his. Our love for one another is a witness to our identity as the redeemed sons and daughters of God. This is such a brainteaser for those of us who have put a lot of thought into the mission and structure of the local church. So often we tend to think of in-reach and outreach as two different arms of the church, both extending in opposite directions, doing their own thing; but then Jesus comes and says one can’t exist without the other. A church that is “missional,” and wants to make Jesus known in their community, must be a church that loves one another. And a church that is intentional about loving one another can’t help but be a church that makes Jesus known. That’s the way it works.

And that’s how we live together as the church in this world: we go against the grain of societal expectations, we help one another when it hurts, and we love one another to represent our King.

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Love One Another: At Home

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…add to your…brotherly kindness love. —2 Peter 1:5, 7

by Oswald Chambers

Love is an indefinite thing to most of us; we don’t know what we mean when we talk about love. Love is the loftiest preference of one person for another, and spiritually Jesus demands that this sovereign preference be for Himself (see Luke 14:26). Initially, when “the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit” (Romans 5:5), it is easy to put Jesus first. But then we must practice the things mentioned in 2 Peter 1 to see them worked out in our lives.

The first thing God does is forcibly remove any insincerity, pride, and vanity from my life. And the Holy Spirit reveals to me that God loved me not because I was lovable, but because it was His nature to do so. Now He commands me to show the same love to others by saying, “…love one another as I have loved you” (John 15:12). He is saying, “I will bring a number of people around you whom you cannot respect, but you must exhibit My love to them, just as I have exhibited it to you.” This kind of love is not a patronizing love for the unlovable— it is His love, and it will not be evidenced in us overnight. Some of us may have tried to force it, but we were soon tired and frustrated.

“The Lord…is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish…” (2 Peter 3:9). I should look within and remember how wonderfully He has dealt with me. The knowledge that God has loved me beyond all limits will compel me to go into the world to love others in the same way. I may get irritated because I have to live with an unusually difficult person. But just think how disagreeable I have been with God! Am I prepared to be identified so closely with the Lord Jesus that His life and His sweetness will be continually poured out through Me? Neither natural love nor God’s divine love will remain and grow in me unless it is nurtured. Love is spontaneous, but it has to be maintained through discipline.


“I have chosen you” (John 15:16). Keep that note of greatness in your creed. It is not that you have got God, but that He has got you.  My Utmost for His Highest, October 25, 837 R

Love One Another – The nature of God/the example of Jesus

God is Love.


Quote from Glennon Doyle Melton in her book – Carry On, Warrior.

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Romans 13:8  Owe nothing to anyone—except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbor, you will fulfill the requirements of God’s law.

Ephesians 4:2  Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.

John 3:16 For this is how God loved the world: He gave[a] his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.


Jesus is our example.

John 13:34-35 So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other. 35 Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”

1 John 3:16 We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters.