Definition of Forgive One Another

Eph 4 32

Scriptural References

Ephesians 1:7 He is so rich in kindness and grace that he purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son and forgave our sins.

Ephesians 4:26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry,

Matthew 6:9-15 9 Pray like this:

Our Father in heaven, may your name be kept holy.

10 May your Kingdom come soon.

May your will be done on earth, as it is in heaven.

11 Give us today the food we need,

12 and forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us.

13 And don’t let us yield to temptation, but rescue us from the evil one.

14 “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you.15 But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.

Mark 11:25 But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too

The Greek word ‘charizomai’ is translated as forgive; it literally means “forward giving” –  to freely give, to pardon, to graciously restore one to another.  It is the word translated as forgive in the following two key passages.

Colossians 3:12&13 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tender-hearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. 13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.

Ephesians 4:32 Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.

Thoughts from valiant man, the arena of healing by Dr A Meyer

Forgiving (the merciful) “I acknowledge the centrality of amazing grace.  I need forgiveness and I need help, neither of which I deserve.  As I need forgiveness and help, I understand that others need it also.  I will seek to help others experience what I am seeking for myself.  I will open my heart to the needs of others as I desire to have others be open to me.  I will forgive as I desire to be forgiven.  I will cease judging as I desire to escape from judgement.”

One of the greatest stories ever told is the story of God’s forgiveness of us through Jesus Christ.  That is our model.  If we want to know healing, we must be prepared to forgive.  That is why the attitude of forgiveness is so crucial.

One of the most important elements of our journey is for us to grow in a sense that God loves us.  We cannot drive ourselves towards personal purity by believing that God will not love us unless we change.  God’s love is not conditional.  God in fact has dignified us, and the call is for us to rise into what God has gifted us with.  That’s called ‘amazing grace’.  It’s called the love of God, and that love is one of the greatest strengthening elements a person can have in their lives.

If you want the grace and love of God to work in your life you are going to have to show grace.  Jesus put it this way: “Blessed are the merciful for they are the ones who get mercy”.  If you want to be able to live out of a sense of being forgiven, you need to learn to be a forgiver.  People living with resentment feel that they they themselves have never been forgiven…

Forgiveness is going to be such a profound issue.  Only those who are willing to forgive fully are able to fully live in the sense of being forgiven.  To learn to live free of resentment, we must learn to totally and utterly forgive the weakness of others.  That honours God and sets us free from the dangerous pressures of resentment…

Mercy is a heart attitude that moves a person to act in love even when there are reasons not to.  This attitude embraces the call to forgiveness that Jesus so clearly links with healing and restoring grace – forgiveness which extends grace through the barrier of past offences.

Matthew 5:7 God blesses those who are merciful, for they will be shown mercy.

The Opposite of Forgive One Another.Unforgiveness

  • Unforgiveness and bitterness.
  • Guilt resulting in separation from God
  • Offence and resentment.
  • Regret and stress.

The Counterfeit of Forgive One Another.

  • Conditional forgiveness.
  • Pretending you haven’t been hurt.  Ignoring unforgiveness, guilt and resentment – brushing it under the carpet.
  • False standards:   Expectation that we will not struggle, show weakness or sin.
  • Confusion of conscience and the Holy Spirit.   Holy Spirit brings conviction and does not make us feel guilty.  Guilt and condemnation do not come from God but from us.    Guilt is focused on how I feel.



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